Thursday, June 29, 2006
Fred the Cat
I’ve been trying to coax Fred to come to my desk (he’s our office cat). He’s so big now and he’s gotten so heavy. I didn’t wanna pick him up because I don’t want cat hair all over me. He’s been quiet since he got sick. A few months back he was jumping on desks and stepping on our keyboards. There was a time when leaving your cup on your desk was a bad idea. Not only was there a risk of him tipping it over but there was higher probability of him sipping from your cup without you realizing it. Eew. He’s such an adorable cat though and I must admit there are times when I think he can read minds. He’s got to be the smartest cat I know. I’m not particularly fond of cats. I prefer dogs (even tho they scare the hell out of me). Dogs are playful, lovable and sociable. They’re proactive. Cats, I think, are lazy, picky, require high maintenance (although I’ve been told this is untrue), and they shed too much. I think that Fred has grown on me.
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
random things
Ow my back hurts. I think it’s because of the way I’m sitting. A back massage would be so nice. I think I should go to a spa and spend an entire day there. I’ve never been to one except for the nail spa. I’m surprised at how expensive it is to get your nails done. But then again, getting a hair cut here in Canada also costs a fortune. I actually have to save money to get a hair cut and some highlights. Being a girl is fun but at the same time it takes a lot of work and it costs money.
I just looked at the stack of client folders I have on my desk and thank God they’re depleting. I’ve finished working with almost all of them but I like to keep some on my desk so that I can remember to do follow ups.
So I’ve resumed going through the next release version of our software and for the life of me there is an area where I can’t figure out how to make it work. The programmers seem to have changed a very small but integral portion of the interface and now I’m stuck trying to figure how it works. It’s frustrating.
I received a message from Carl and it’s such a relief to hear from him. He’ll be in Iraq for a few months and until he’s safely back home, he’ll always be a point of concern for most of us. It sounds like he’s doing ok and I sure hope so. I hope we get to go home to the phils at the same time.
Jen went online this morning and I was able to chat with her for a few minutes. It’s good to hear she’s doing great but we’ve both been so busy these past few months and haven’t hung out for awhile. I miss her a lot.
Leslie turned 22 last week and JR turned 21 the following day. I heard Les had a family get-together over the weekend and i wanted to come but they’re in the states and I’m in Canada. I haven’t seen some of my cousins for over 10 years! Ate Kit recently joined Friendster and since she’s joined, we’ve been sending each other messages back and forth. I like that we’re so much closer to each other now. I don’t remember talking to her so much when we were growing up since they moved to the states when I was still very young and we have such a huge age gap. I’m surprised she still speaks Tagalog so fluently and that she writes to me in Filipino still. She’s pretty funny and I love writing to her. I think all my cousins have a good sense of humour or maybe I’m just extremely fond of them that I think they’re funny all the time. Haha! But one thing’s for sure, whenever we get together we end up laughing like crazy expecially when Kuya Danny’s around. He just says the funniest things. Les would agree with me.
I just looked at the stack of client folders I have on my desk and thank God they’re depleting. I’ve finished working with almost all of them but I like to keep some on my desk so that I can remember to do follow ups.
So I’ve resumed going through the next release version of our software and for the life of me there is an area where I can’t figure out how to make it work. The programmers seem to have changed a very small but integral portion of the interface and now I’m stuck trying to figure how it works. It’s frustrating.
I received a message from Carl and it’s such a relief to hear from him. He’ll be in Iraq for a few months and until he’s safely back home, he’ll always be a point of concern for most of us. It sounds like he’s doing ok and I sure hope so. I hope we get to go home to the phils at the same time.
Jen went online this morning and I was able to chat with her for a few minutes. It’s good to hear she’s doing great but we’ve both been so busy these past few months and haven’t hung out for awhile. I miss her a lot.
Leslie turned 22 last week and JR turned 21 the following day. I heard Les had a family get-together over the weekend and i wanted to come but they’re in the states and I’m in Canada. I haven’t seen some of my cousins for over 10 years! Ate Kit recently joined Friendster and since she’s joined, we’ve been sending each other messages back and forth. I like that we’re so much closer to each other now. I don’t remember talking to her so much when we were growing up since they moved to the states when I was still very young and we have such a huge age gap. I’m surprised she still speaks Tagalog so fluently and that she writes to me in Filipino still. She’s pretty funny and I love writing to her. I think all my cousins have a good sense of humour or maybe I’m just extremely fond of them that I think they’re funny all the time. Haha! But one thing’s for sure, whenever we get together we end up laughing like crazy expecially when Kuya Danny’s around. He just says the funniest things. Les would agree with me.
Books
I went to Eaton Centre yesterday after work in the hopes of buying this cute top I saw over the weekend. I already bought a brown one but I wanted a white one too. Unfortunately, they only had 3 pieces left and none of them was my size. I walked around the mall, window-shopping and trying out some stuff but I didn’t find anything I liked. Jerry was working till 7pm so he couldn’t come with me but he called to ask me to wait for him so he could see me even for a bit. Since I was getting tired and I dind’t have anything else to do, I decided to wait for him at Indigo (it’s like Powerbooks). I grabbed a magazine and a book to read while waiting. I love going to Indigo because they let you read anything (even magazines). They even have comfy chairs where you can sit and read and they have benches near the windows overlooking the mall. It’s like a library except you can’t take out books unless you’re buying them. They also have computers all over the place where you can search for a book. It tells you how many are in stock at that store and where else can you find the book and how many they have in each store. If they’ve ran out of the book you’re looking for, you can have them call another branch and reserve one for you or you can order, or you can have it mailed to you at home. Pretty convenient noh? I actually have a memebership card there which entitles me to discounts. Jerry and I love to read so we buy books occasionally. Hey babe you gotta admit it was me who got you addicted to reading!!
I was thinking of buying The Time Traveller’s Wife next. Steve told me it’s a really good book and Suzy’s reading it.
I’ve always loved reading. My dad used to buy me Hans Anderson’s Fairtytales when I was young. I remember my grandma giving me lots of children’s books to read and I would spend hours sitting on my bed reading. She gave me and my brother so many books that we had to be careful when opening our top closet and our head boards or else we’d have books falling on us (and no, I’m not exagerrating). JR and I would also browse through Reader’s Digest and National Geographic and I remember having some difficulty understanding some of the big words. My parents would tell me what some of the words meant and they would teach me how to learn new words using context clues. Now I can go through an entire book in a few hours.
Reading books help me relax. They transport me to different places and times and they allow me to be a part of someone else’s life (whether it’s real or fictional). Once I start reading a book I like, that’s it I’m hooked. I love reading books by Nicholas Sparks, Dan Brown, Steve Berry and James Patterson. I also love books written by Sophie Kinsella, Stephenie Meyer, and Cecila Ahern.
Here are just some of my faves:
Twilight
Can You Keep a Secret?
Suzanne’s Diary for Nicholas
The Notebook
A Walk to Remember
PS I Love You
Where Rainbows End
The Da Vinci Code
Angels and Demons
Digital Fortress
Deception Point
Sam’s Letters to Jennifer
The Wedding
Tuesdays with Morrie
The Five People You Meet In Heaven
I can read the aforementioned books over and over again. Sometimes I can’t help but think of how talented these authors are to be able to write something so good. I don’t know if I’ll be able to write something just as good… probably not… but in any case, I stil love reading.
Tuesday, June 27, 2006
slow point
I’m extremely bored. I’ve been swamped all month with so much work and I’m so glad I’ve had some breathing space these past few days. My pc at work unfortunately faces the hallway and i have to constantly watch my back when I’m surfing. Not that it’s forbidden, we are free to surf when we have free time. But just the same, I don’t want them thinking that I’m slacking off or being negligent of my responsibilities at work. I find that once in awhile, i have some free time especially when I’ve done all my work and I’m ahead of schedule. I think that, if not all, most jobs have that period when you’re so swamped you can barely breath and then follows a slow point when you find yourself staring at your monitor wondering what you’re going to do for the next few hours til 5pm. This is this month’s slow point for me. I’m not complaining…i’ve been busting my ass off this month. I was actually scheduled to fly to the US to train a client and thankfully, it didn’t go through. I’d be horrified travelling all by myself for the first time.
I’ve got an hour and 10mins till 5pm. I can’t wait till I’m outta here.
I’ve got an hour and 10mins till 5pm. I can’t wait till I’m outta here.
Talking to pao and shey
I was talking to pao and shey this morning on MSN. I miss them so much and I can’t help but be happy whenever I see them online. Shey’s currently based somewhere in Europe and she’ll be there for a few months and then she’ll be returning to the Phils. I know it must be hard for her to be so far from the people she loves but she’s also priveleged to be able to do something she likes and get to travel at the same time. I have to admit that I am partly grateful for the fact that she is only about 5 or 6 hours ahead of me which makes it easier for us to catch each other online. It’s harder for us to talk when she’s in the Phils because of the 12-hour time difference. When I’m up, she’s sleeping and when she’s up, I’m sleeping.
Come to think of it, I haven’t seen them for 2 years now. A lot has changed in those 2 years I’m sure. Although we keep in touch and we update each other on the on-goings of our everyday life, it’s still different being so far away. I’m missing out on those lunch get-togethers they have once in awhile or the jokes they share or the minute details of what’s going on everyday. It’s a challenge for me to write e-mails often since I tend to get caught up in whatever it is I’m doing whether it’s work or something else. Buti nalang my friends and I have no problems picking up right where we left off. I’m really happy na kahit paano I’m still involved in their lives and that my friends still open up to me whenever we get a chance to talk. We may not be able to talk or chat for hours like we used to but atleast I’m still able to lend an ear or offer an advice when needed. The one thing that I wish I could do but am unable to is to give them a hug or be physically there for them.
I sure hope that we’ll continue to be close throught the years and hopefully I’ll get to see them soon.
Come to think of it, I haven’t seen them for 2 years now. A lot has changed in those 2 years I’m sure. Although we keep in touch and we update each other on the on-goings of our everyday life, it’s still different being so far away. I’m missing out on those lunch get-togethers they have once in awhile or the jokes they share or the minute details of what’s going on everyday. It’s a challenge for me to write e-mails often since I tend to get caught up in whatever it is I’m doing whether it’s work or something else. Buti nalang my friends and I have no problems picking up right where we left off. I’m really happy na kahit paano I’m still involved in their lives and that my friends still open up to me whenever we get a chance to talk. We may not be able to talk or chat for hours like we used to but atleast I’m still able to lend an ear or offer an advice when needed. The one thing that I wish I could do but am unable to is to give them a hug or be physically there for them.
I sure hope that we’ll continue to be close throught the years and hopefully I’ll get to see them soon.
Friday, June 23, 2006
a really great weekend
Jerry and I celebrated his birthday a week ago and I decided I’d put it in here. =)
Happy Birthday Sweetheart!! I never get tired of greeting you.
The plan was to surprise him at work by having a cake, flowers and balloons delivered. Let’s just say it didn’t turn out as planned so I had to improvise. I wasn’t able to find a place that would do deliveries so I had to give it to him myself. Luckily I got off work earlier than him so I was able get the stuff I needed and pass by his workplace. He said he loved the flowers and told me he bought a vase so that he could put it at his desk. Awww…
We were thinking of going to the beach where we had our first date but it was a bit chilly that day and so we decided to just stay home and spend time together. We had dinner delivered and we spent the rest of the evening just cuddling and talking. We even played Mortal Combat on his play station while waiting for the food. Jerry was telling me that most people would find the stuff we do pretty boring but we love spending time together and enjoying simple things. Of course once in awhile we’d go to a fancy restaurant or do something else.
The following day we went to his uncle’s house and we spent time with his relatives. Later we went downtown to see the Lake House. Really good movie! After the movie, we decided to take a walk downtown and we stopped by POD (Jerry and I invented this acronym for our special spot at Nathan Phillips Square). He brought me home afterwards.
Sunday we went to the MMVA (Much Music Video Awards)! It started at 9pm but we were there an hour early since I wanted to have a bite first. We ate at the Crepe place along Queen Street West. It was already pretty crowded since the celebs were arriving and people were screaming, taking pictures and asking for autographs.
Jerry and I were lucky to have found a good spot. I had to stand on a ledge to get a good view while Jerry supported me. He kept teasing me by pretending he’d let me fall. We were able to see Simple Plan, Nelly Furtado, Timberland, Tori Spelling, Nick Lachey, Massari, Rihanna, and some other celebs that I can’t recall. We didn’t finish the entire thing though because it was getting late and we both had to go to work the following morning. I was able to take some pictures and I was able to record a video of Nelly Furtado and Timberland performing. Unfortunately the recording I did didn’t have sounds. Kainis!!
It was a great weekend… =)
Happy Birthday Sweetheart!! I never get tired of greeting you.
The plan was to surprise him at work by having a cake, flowers and balloons delivered. Let’s just say it didn’t turn out as planned so I had to improvise. I wasn’t able to find a place that would do deliveries so I had to give it to him myself. Luckily I got off work earlier than him so I was able get the stuff I needed and pass by his workplace. He said he loved the flowers and told me he bought a vase so that he could put it at his desk. Awww…
We were thinking of going to the beach where we had our first date but it was a bit chilly that day and so we decided to just stay home and spend time together. We had dinner delivered and we spent the rest of the evening just cuddling and talking. We even played Mortal Combat on his play station while waiting for the food. Jerry was telling me that most people would find the stuff we do pretty boring but we love spending time together and enjoying simple things. Of course once in awhile we’d go to a fancy restaurant or do something else.
The following day we went to his uncle’s house and we spent time with his relatives. Later we went downtown to see the Lake House. Really good movie! After the movie, we decided to take a walk downtown and we stopped by POD (Jerry and I invented this acronym for our special spot at Nathan Phillips Square). He brought me home afterwards.
Sunday we went to the MMVA (Much Music Video Awards)! It started at 9pm but we were there an hour early since I wanted to have a bite first. We ate at the Crepe place along Queen Street West. It was already pretty crowded since the celebs were arriving and people were screaming, taking pictures and asking for autographs.
Jerry and I were lucky to have found a good spot. I had to stand on a ledge to get a good view while Jerry supported me. He kept teasing me by pretending he’d let me fall. We were able to see Simple Plan, Nelly Furtado, Timberland, Tori Spelling, Nick Lachey, Massari, Rihanna, and some other celebs that I can’t recall. We didn’t finish the entire thing though because it was getting late and we both had to go to work the following morning. I was able to take some pictures and I was able to record a video of Nelly Furtado and Timberland performing. Unfortunately the recording I did didn’t have sounds. Kainis!!
It was a great weekend… =)
Friday, June 16, 2006
a trip to the Philippine Consulate
Friday at last! Yey! Couldn’t be more grateful for the weekend.
I had to take the morning off today so that I could go to the Philippines Consulate and get my passport renewed. JR and Miguel came with me and I practically had to drag them out of bed just so we could leave the house early. I’m just as guilty… I had to force myself up this morning at 7:15 am (yes, I set my alarm to ring at 7 am but I snoozed it…LOL) I slept late last night since I went out with jerry yesterday and we ended up talking till late at Pickle Barrel. We completely lost track of time and couldn’t believe it when we looked at our watches and it was already 10:30 pm! After dinner, we made our way to the subway opting to take a walk along Yonge Street (since it was so nice outside) instead of passing through Eaton Centre. I was exhausted when I got home but I didn’t sleep until around 1 am. Jerry went straight to bed when he got home but called to say goodnight first. I love spending time with him.
I forgot to mention we had been walking around earlier and I happened to be wearing heels. My feet started to hurt really bad and I was forced to buy a pair of low sandals to replace them. I thought I’d sneak it in here. LOL
It was so warm today that I decided to wear capris to work. One thing that I do love about work is that we get to wear whatever we want. We only dress up when we have clients coming over but most of the time we dress casually. JR, Miguel and I got lost trying to find the Philippine Consulate. We had the address but the way the buildings were numbered just did not make sense. It wasn’t very intuitive. We saw building number 160 and right beside it building number 164. On the opposite side of the road was building number 117 (or something like it). Well, where the hell is 161? I had to call their office to find out and it turns out you had to walk further East until you get to the intersection. Yup, makes perfect sense…right!!
We got three application forms (one for each of us – which I ended filling up for all three of us since we kept messing it up and asking for new ones. In the end, we had a total of 5 forms, 2 of which we had to throw out). Then we find out we couldn’t use our debit cards because they only accept cash, money order or cheques! Yup, very useful information… might have been helpful if mentioned right from the beginning! JR and I ended up looking for an ATM machine to get cash while Miguel waited. Thankfully there was a convenience store close by that had an ATM machine so we didn’t have to go very far. We paid and were told we had to come back to claim it. Very typical. Nakakainis pa naman yung girl sa counter… hello?! Customer service! Ring a bell?? I found it funny when I overheard a few people in line before me saying, “Ano ba naman yan, pilipinas na pilipinas talaga… pati ba naman dito?!” I couldn’t help but laugh… I couldn’t blame them, I mean everywhere you go here, it is pretty organized and convenient to do things and get everything done quickly. It guess it is expected somehow the Philippine Consulate would adopt the same methodology. I guess not then.
It was a relief though to be there and be around Filipinos and everyone’s speaking Tagalog. It gives you that same familiar feeling and you can pretend you’re in the Philippines. I know, I keep repeating sentiments about the Philippines and just everything about home. Proves how much I miss it.
I had to take the morning off today so that I could go to the Philippines Consulate and get my passport renewed. JR and Miguel came with me and I practically had to drag them out of bed just so we could leave the house early. I’m just as guilty… I had to force myself up this morning at 7:15 am (yes, I set my alarm to ring at 7 am but I snoozed it…LOL) I slept late last night since I went out with jerry yesterday and we ended up talking till late at Pickle Barrel. We completely lost track of time and couldn’t believe it when we looked at our watches and it was already 10:30 pm! After dinner, we made our way to the subway opting to take a walk along Yonge Street (since it was so nice outside) instead of passing through Eaton Centre. I was exhausted when I got home but I didn’t sleep until around 1 am. Jerry went straight to bed when he got home but called to say goodnight first. I love spending time with him.
I forgot to mention we had been walking around earlier and I happened to be wearing heels. My feet started to hurt really bad and I was forced to buy a pair of low sandals to replace them. I thought I’d sneak it in here. LOL
It was so warm today that I decided to wear capris to work. One thing that I do love about work is that we get to wear whatever we want. We only dress up when we have clients coming over but most of the time we dress casually. JR, Miguel and I got lost trying to find the Philippine Consulate. We had the address but the way the buildings were numbered just did not make sense. It wasn’t very intuitive. We saw building number 160 and right beside it building number 164. On the opposite side of the road was building number 117 (or something like it). Well, where the hell is 161? I had to call their office to find out and it turns out you had to walk further East until you get to the intersection. Yup, makes perfect sense…right!!
We got three application forms (one for each of us – which I ended filling up for all three of us since we kept messing it up and asking for new ones. In the end, we had a total of 5 forms, 2 of which we had to throw out). Then we find out we couldn’t use our debit cards because they only accept cash, money order or cheques! Yup, very useful information… might have been helpful if mentioned right from the beginning! JR and I ended up looking for an ATM machine to get cash while Miguel waited. Thankfully there was a convenience store close by that had an ATM machine so we didn’t have to go very far. We paid and were told we had to come back to claim it. Very typical. Nakakainis pa naman yung girl sa counter… hello?! Customer service! Ring a bell?? I found it funny when I overheard a few people in line before me saying, “Ano ba naman yan, pilipinas na pilipinas talaga… pati ba naman dito?!” I couldn’t help but laugh… I couldn’t blame them, I mean everywhere you go here, it is pretty organized and convenient to do things and get everything done quickly. It guess it is expected somehow the Philippine Consulate would adopt the same methodology. I guess not then.
It was a relief though to be there and be around Filipinos and everyone’s speaking Tagalog. It gives you that same familiar feeling and you can pretend you’re in the Philippines. I know, I keep repeating sentiments about the Philippines and just everything about home. Proves how much I miss it.
Tuesday, June 13, 2006
miss..miss..missing
Jerry called to tell me (rather, yell) that Togo just scored a goal against Korea. He’s so cute! He is the biggest soccer fan that I know. He has the complete schedule and knows the different players and who’s good and who’s blah… He even rearranged his work schedule to accommodate it! So adorable! I don’t even have a sport that I regularly watch.
I wasn’t feeling too well the other day and I sent Juhl a text message complaining at how upset I am with some stuff at work. He sent me a message saying I should just come back home since I’m always happy when I’m there. I wish it were as easy as a snap of a finger and I’m there. I miss all of my relatives and my friends and I miss going to places and eating at restaurants…I miss being able to wake up in our house in Las Piñas and the smell of morning…God, I miss everything and everyone…
I miss the little things most of all… minute details that you normally wouldn’t think of or even notice. I miss the sound of a friend’s laughter, the smells and sounds I hear every morning as I commute to shool, the sound of each door in our house in Las Piñas…I miss being able to see my relatives during birthdays or holidays… I miss our mango tree… I miss being able to watch my fave TV shows… I miss my old bed… being able to eat halo-halo, squid balls, tokyo-tokyo, really good chinese food…I miss so many things… most especially my close friends. I miss having long conversations over the phone, complaining about school work, making jokes, laughing together, hanging out together… it’s different.
I cried a lot the first few weeks I came here. After awhile, I guess I got used to it…being here I mean. I still miss everything and everyone and I still think about them everyday but it’s not as bad as I originally thought it was or would be. I strongly believe there is a reason for everything. Yes, life can spin out of control and throw you places you never thought you’d be at or situations you’d never thought you’d be in but there is a God and God is good. I trust in Him and I know He has His own reasons and I know He knows what’s best for me. Don’t get me wrong, yes I do have those moments where in I think life is pretty shitty but that’s only when I’m really upset and really down…but I learn to get over it and accept it for what it is and hope for the best. What else can I do, right? Life is life…that’s all I can say.
I wasn’t feeling too well the other day and I sent Juhl a text message complaining at how upset I am with some stuff at work. He sent me a message saying I should just come back home since I’m always happy when I’m there. I wish it were as easy as a snap of a finger and I’m there. I miss all of my relatives and my friends and I miss going to places and eating at restaurants…I miss being able to wake up in our house in Las Piñas and the smell of morning…God, I miss everything and everyone…
I miss the little things most of all… minute details that you normally wouldn’t think of or even notice. I miss the sound of a friend’s laughter, the smells and sounds I hear every morning as I commute to shool, the sound of each door in our house in Las Piñas…I miss being able to see my relatives during birthdays or holidays… I miss our mango tree… I miss being able to watch my fave TV shows… I miss my old bed… being able to eat halo-halo, squid balls, tokyo-tokyo, really good chinese food…I miss so many things… most especially my close friends. I miss having long conversations over the phone, complaining about school work, making jokes, laughing together, hanging out together… it’s different.
I cried a lot the first few weeks I came here. After awhile, I guess I got used to it…being here I mean. I still miss everything and everyone and I still think about them everyday but it’s not as bad as I originally thought it was or would be. I strongly believe there is a reason for everything. Yes, life can spin out of control and throw you places you never thought you’d be at or situations you’d never thought you’d be in but there is a God and God is good. I trust in Him and I know He has His own reasons and I know He knows what’s best for me. Don’t get me wrong, yes I do have those moments where in I think life is pretty shitty but that’s only when I’m really upset and really down…but I learn to get over it and accept it for what it is and hope for the best. What else can I do, right? Life is life…that’s all I can say.
Friday, June 02, 2006
so sleepy
TGIF. I’m so tired and I really need to catch up on my sleep. I’ve been so busy since last week and it looks like I’m going to be swamped until I get the clients going. I love being busy but not all the time! My eyes were so tired and desperately needed some more snooze time this morning that I had to force them open while I was getting ready for work. It hurt so much and my eyes were so watery.
Steve made the infamous ribs again!! This just made my day… I love those ribs. Too bad I can eat about only 2 of them. I’d eat more if I could but I’m already too full after just 2 that I can’t have anymore. We had a late lunch today too because we were waiting for the UK distributors to get here. They took forever and by the time they got here, everyone’s already starved and I was beginning to get a headache due to hunger. The UK distributors finally arrived and I’ve been talking to Daniel about how nice his phone is. Too bad they only have it in the UK. They’ve got such cute accents. I think I can listen to them talk all they and never get tired of it. It reminds me of Hugh Grant in Notting Hill. I’d love to go to London someday (minus the bombings of course).
I want to go home already. Really.
Steve made the infamous ribs again!! This just made my day… I love those ribs. Too bad I can eat about only 2 of them. I’d eat more if I could but I’m already too full after just 2 that I can’t have anymore. We had a late lunch today too because we were waiting for the UK distributors to get here. They took forever and by the time they got here, everyone’s already starved and I was beginning to get a headache due to hunger. The UK distributors finally arrived and I’ve been talking to Daniel about how nice his phone is. Too bad they only have it in the UK. They’ve got such cute accents. I think I can listen to them talk all they and never get tired of it. It reminds me of Hugh Grant in Notting Hill. I’d love to go to London someday (minus the bombings of course).
I want to go home already. Really.
Thursday, June 01, 2006
i miss my friends
i miss my friends from back home. I was going through my friend list and I suddenly realized how much i miss them...bummer
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I hate this ad. I see it on bus stops, posts, walls… I see it and I think to myself, “whatever happened to the sanctity of marriage?” Is it really as simple as having $300 and that’s that? Call me old fashioned and yes maybe I just don’t know what it is like to be in a marriage that doesn’t work but entering a marriage with the thought that you can always get out of it isn’t such a good thing either. You tend to take marriage lightly. What happened to the vows you took? With divorce present, what makes marriage different from dating? Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment. You don’t get married just because you feel like it or just because everyody else is doing it. You get married because you and your partner want to build a family, grow old together, to be present in each other’s lives and to be there through good and bad. Yes, marriage isn’t perfect and yes, there are times when you feel like you just want to hurdle a pot towards your husband/wife but you have to work together to overcome that challenges that you come across. People change, yes that’s true but if you truly loved someone, you accept them for who they are. As husband and wife, you do your best to understand each other, to embrace each other’s imperfections and to learn from each other. It is absolutely normal to have differences because even though you are husband and wife, you are still two completely different people who grew up with different families and different life experiences. It is by being together that you fulfill each other.
You don’t stop making mistakes just because you got married. You and your husband/wife will make mistakes, you will probably hurt each other by words or actions (not physically of course – that would be abuse) because you’re human and you’re not perfect. To forgive is extremely difficult especially where immense pain is present. But give it your best shot. Learn to appreciate each other. I think it also important to do your part. You can’t expect your partner to do everything for you. You get what you give. If you want your partner to be responsible then become reponsible too. I am not saying you should change the other person. I think most people make the mistake of getting married thinking that they can change their partner. You don’t force your partner to do something you want. All I’m saying is that you do your share. Learn to know when you should compromise and when you should be firm.
I think couples should pratice good communication. Marriage, like most things in life, is a big risk and will always be a big risk. There are no guarantees in life. But your attitude makes a lot of difference. Knowing that marriage is a life long commitment and learning how to value the sanctity of marriage makes you want to make it work. I think divorce is a petty excuse for being lazy…giving up and not giving it your best shot.
You don’t stop making mistakes just because you got married. You and your husband/wife will make mistakes, you will probably hurt each other by words or actions (not physically of course – that would be abuse) because you’re human and you’re not perfect. To forgive is extremely difficult especially where immense pain is present. But give it your best shot. Learn to appreciate each other. I think it also important to do your part. You can’t expect your partner to do everything for you. You get what you give. If you want your partner to be responsible then become reponsible too. I am not saying you should change the other person. I think most people make the mistake of getting married thinking that they can change their partner. You don’t force your partner to do something you want. All I’m saying is that you do your share. Learn to know when you should compromise and when you should be firm.
I think couples should pratice good communication. Marriage, like most things in life, is a big risk and will always be a big risk. There are no guarantees in life. But your attitude makes a lot of difference. Knowing that marriage is a life long commitment and learning how to value the sanctity of marriage makes you want to make it work. I think divorce is a petty excuse for being lazy…giving up and not giving it your best shot.
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